I just had a quick conversation with one of my friends and I felt like writing a note today.
Well, let me clarify what I get all these years. Hardships, in whatever the forms are, do shape the characteristics of people. They do determine how people handle problems, they do influence the characters of those people, being tough and always getting up when s/he falls.
I can say that I'm lucky enough to be born in what we call as 'the ideal family'. I've got a fantastic family, a driver to wait for me after school, practically never tidy up my own bed room (because my maid can do it for me!), never cook, never have to worry about financial matters, and you name it, I've got it! And I know that many of my friends are having the same stuffs as well. Indeed, we are lucky. We don't have to earn some money to help our parents to fund our study or work for our own pocket money.
It's different when I go to Atma. Until now, I'm grateful to study there because it is really an experience. Studying there just open my eyes - well, people may not have the same comfort which I have. They may not be able to spend some amount of money at once because they need to prioritize things. And that's what makes the differences are. I learn to appreciate what I have and be aware of my comfort. Will I be able to provide the same things which my parents now give me to my own family in the future?
You may spend hundreds of dollars or rupiahs just for a piece of cloth or a bag. (I'm doing that too, to be honest!) Wait a minute, is it your money, or your parents' money? How old are you? Whilst millions of people are fighting for their own dreams, is it fair that you just waste your money that way? I may complain that my boyfriend cannot even come to Melbourne for me, to call me, to buy expensive stuffs for me, but I admire his decision to do things his own - to stand on his own and practically do everything independently, despite the fact that I know that his family is beyond the capacity to provide all the luxuries. He wants to see the world. How? Not expecting money from his parents for sure. He joined competitions and travel abroad.
I know one of my friends will fly to US with her husband soon. She deserves the happiness after all her tough years. I know my other friend will soon study to German to pursue her dreams as well. I wouldn't be surprised to see her on world stage someday. I have another friend who is dedicated for being a teacher, another friend who is pursuing her dreams to study further in music, and you name it! I've got lots of fantastic friends whom truly open my eyes!
It doesn't mean that you have to live miserably though, but let me put this way. You might live in a comfortable life right now, but remember, things may change dramatically. Be aware of it and have a broader view of your life. You cannot just enjoy everything and forget that life may be unpredictable. Be humble. You may be the one whom people spit on if things are going the other way around.
I admire people, despite all the comforts they have - they are still willing to stand alone and face hardships to reach their dreams. How many people are there today?
Am I being skeptical? Again no. I just feel that these days, people (including my friends) have too narrow views about their lives. They think that their problems are bigger than anyone else - about work, about study, etc. I have the tendency for doing that as well. How selfish. After all, that's the characteristic of humans, rights? We tend to follow our ego and perceive others differently from us. This is MY problem, that is YOUR problem. MY problem is bigger than YOURS. For once in your life, please stop and try to see his/her problem from their own shoes.
I have disappointments, and I don't want to reveal them here because I'm afraid I will hurt my friends. However, when I feel that I stood alone, I find other friends - those who are tough and honest in their lives - to stand besides me. I learn, and I know that I may hurt my friends too. For that, I will accept this. And I'm grateful for this.
Well, let me clarify what I get all these years. Hardships, in whatever the forms are, do shape the characteristics of people. They do determine how people handle problems, they do influence the characters of those people, being tough and always getting up when s/he falls.
I can say that I'm lucky enough to be born in what we call as 'the ideal family'. I've got a fantastic family, a driver to wait for me after school, practically never tidy up my own bed room (because my maid can do it for me!), never cook, never have to worry about financial matters, and you name it, I've got it! And I know that many of my friends are having the same stuffs as well. Indeed, we are lucky. We don't have to earn some money to help our parents to fund our study or work for our own pocket money.
It's different when I go to Atma. Until now, I'm grateful to study there because it is really an experience. Studying there just open my eyes - well, people may not have the same comfort which I have. They may not be able to spend some amount of money at once because they need to prioritize things. And that's what makes the differences are. I learn to appreciate what I have and be aware of my comfort. Will I be able to provide the same things which my parents now give me to my own family in the future?
You may spend hundreds of dollars or rupiahs just for a piece of cloth or a bag. (I'm doing that too, to be honest!) Wait a minute, is it your money, or your parents' money? How old are you? Whilst millions of people are fighting for their own dreams, is it fair that you just waste your money that way? I may complain that my boyfriend cannot even come to Melbourne for me, to call me, to buy expensive stuffs for me, but I admire his decision to do things his own - to stand on his own and practically do everything independently, despite the fact that I know that his family is beyond the capacity to provide all the luxuries. He wants to see the world. How? Not expecting money from his parents for sure. He joined competitions and travel abroad.
I know one of my friends will fly to US with her husband soon. She deserves the happiness after all her tough years. I know my other friend will soon study to German to pursue her dreams as well. I wouldn't be surprised to see her on world stage someday. I have another friend who is dedicated for being a teacher, another friend who is pursuing her dreams to study further in music, and you name it! I've got lots of fantastic friends whom truly open my eyes!
It doesn't mean that you have to live miserably though, but let me put this way. You might live in a comfortable life right now, but remember, things may change dramatically. Be aware of it and have a broader view of your life. You cannot just enjoy everything and forget that life may be unpredictable. Be humble. You may be the one whom people spit on if things are going the other way around.
I admire people, despite all the comforts they have - they are still willing to stand alone and face hardships to reach their dreams. How many people are there today?
Am I being skeptical? Again no. I just feel that these days, people (including my friends) have too narrow views about their lives. They think that their problems are bigger than anyone else - about work, about study, etc. I have the tendency for doing that as well. How selfish. After all, that's the characteristic of humans, rights? We tend to follow our ego and perceive others differently from us. This is MY problem, that is YOUR problem. MY problem is bigger than YOURS. For once in your life, please stop and try to see his/her problem from their own shoes.
I have disappointments, and I don't want to reveal them here because I'm afraid I will hurt my friends. However, when I feel that I stood alone, I find other friends - those who are tough and honest in their lives - to stand besides me. I learn, and I know that I may hurt my friends too. For that, I will accept this. And I'm grateful for this.
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